Rooted in attachment. Transforming your connection.
Connection is central to our well-being.
For more than 85 years, the Harvard Study of Adult Development has followed people across their lives to understand what helps us live healthier, more fulfilling lives. One of its clearest findings is that the quality of our relationships matters deeply to our happiness and health.
As study director Dr. Robert Waldinger puts it, “Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.”
At Meadowlark Therapy, I believe that connection is more than something we want. It's something we need. And when the relationships that matter most become painful or disconnected, understanding the patterns beneath our struggles can help us find a new way forward.
Through attachment-based therapy, you and your partner can begin to build a relationship where you feel safer, more understood, and better able to turn toward each other—even in difficult moments.
The single strongest predictor of happiness in later life isn't career or wealth — it's the quality of one's closest relationships.
Harvard Grant Study, 80+ years following adult lifePeople in secure, healthy relationships tend to live longer, report greater happiness, and see higher earning potential over their lifetimes.
Findings across decades of relationship researchWe are wired for connection.
From the moment we're born, our survival depends on connection. As infants, we rely on our caregivers to meet our needs and help us feel safe in the world.
That need for connection doesn't disappear as we grow up. It finds a new home in our closest adult relationships. The ways we learned to seek closeness, navigate distance, and respond to conflict can continue to shape how we love as adults.
When we feel secure in our relationships, we can turn toward each other for comfort, manage conflict, and trust in our connection. But when old patterns get activated, couples can find themselves caught in painful, repeating cycles—even when they love each other deeply and are trying their best.
My work is to help you understand these patterns without blame, so you and your partner can begin to create something new: a relationship grounded in greater security, trust, and lasting connection.
Attachment-based couples therapy, grounded in the belief that the patterns you learned early in life can be understood and re-learned together.
I might be the right therapist for you if you…
- Have been married or committed for years, even decades, and want more connection, intimacy, safety, and security
- Have fights that feel repetitive and difficult to fully repair
- Have struggled to feel secure in your relationships, this one or past ones
- Are already familiar with attachment theory and want to rewire insecure patterns, in your current relationship or in preparing for a secure one
- Are navigating a significant rupture: an affair, a betrayal, a stalemate, or a pervasive sense of disconnection
- Want a therapist who has been married for years and actively works on building a relationship that's safe, secure, and fun
Ready to understand your relationship on a deeper level?
I’d love to hear from you at Meadowlark Therapy.