Meet Nirinjan Khalsa, LMHC
I'm the founder of Meadowlark Therapy and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor specializing in attachment-based couples therapy.
I believe, and decades of research confirm, that we are hardwired for connection. From our very first days of life, our attachment to a caregiver isn't optional. It's how we survive. That same system stays active throughout our lives, quietly shaping how we love, argue, seek comfort, and build trust with our partners.
I've spent my career studying and working within this framework because I've seen, again and again, how transformative it can be. When couples understand why they get stuck, real change becomes possible. My work is to help you and your partner move from reactive, painful patterns toward a relationship built on genuine security and trust.
My Approach
I don't believe in quick fixes or surface-level communication tricks. Attachment patterns run deep, often tracing back to childhood, and they deserve to be treated with that kind of care and depth.
Insecure attachment isn't a sign that something went wrong with your parents, or with you. It's simply what happens when a child's needs go unmet in ways that are big or small, occasional or ongoing, and no caregiver, however loving, meets every need every time. Even in warm, well-intentioned families, kids absorb lessons about closeness: that it's not safe to need too much, that love has to be earned, that conflict means danger. Those early lessons become the blueprint we bring, often without realizing it, into our adult relationships.
In our sessions, we'll slow down enough to understand where your patterns come from, without blame, and without judgment of the people who raised you, so you can build something new and more secure with the person you've chosen now.
Beyond the Office
Outside of my practice, I'm a wife, a mother, an auntie, and a daughter. Those relationships have taught me as much about attachment as any textbook. I'm also an enthusiastic hiker, a devoted dog lover, and someone who can rarely resist an experiment in the kitchen. I bring the same curiosity and care to those parts of my life that I bring to my work with couples: a belief that connection, in all its forms, is worth tending.
